While you may not be 100% certain if someone is genuinely in love with you, there are few signs that can at least show you how the person truly feels about you.
For many of us, one of the big relationship milestones is when your Significant Other says, “I love you.” Hearing/saying them is pretty much as exciting as celebrating your birthday. Hearing the big L-word is a mixture of joy, passion, relief, and surprise. It’s a big moment, but afterwards it can sometimes lead to doubt
I don’t want to seem pessimistic, okay, but there are times when someone says I love you and they don’t really mean it. Or, they say it because they think it’s what you want to hear. If you’ve been having doubts about your relationship, the way he says I love you could reveal his true feelings.
I know it’s hard, but try to think about the situation objectively and consider bae’s use of I love you to see if he’s following any of these patterns. Here are four signs he doesn’t really mean it when he says I love you.
His Actions Don’t Prove It
Does bae talk sweet things in your ear then go and ignore all your texts? Or does he talk about how you’re an amazing girl and the love of his life, but he seems to frequently cancel plans? Remember that actions can sometimes speak louder than words. It’s fairly easy to say *I love you,* but it takes more effort to actually show it.
He Only Says Them After You Do
The thing to keep an eye on is if he says I love you on his own. If he only ever does it after you say the words first, he might not be feeling it 100 percent. Now that you’ve said the words, he might feel that he has to say them back to keep you happy or because that’s what *people are supposed to do.
He Doesn’t Say It In Front Of Others
Some people are more open and comfortable about expressing their feelings in front of others. I get that. Even someone who is head-over-heels with you might not want to say I love you in front of everyone else. They might prefer to keep it between the two of you. It’s still worthwhile to think about the situations where bae says I love you. If it’s only in a solitary place when no one else is home and all the windows are shut, consider his other actions and see whether they show love. Remember, someone can always whisper a soft *I love you* in any public place, if they really want to.
He Tries To Shorten The Phrase
Does your SO actually say *I love you* or does he shorten it to text speak. Does he seem to say, *love ya,* *heart you,* *peace and love,* or something similar rather than *I love you?* Short forms can work in certain situations, but be aware if he never says *I love you.* Also, think about how he’s saying his messages of love and whether they’re personal or whether they sound like he could be saying them to his mum, sister, friend, whoever.