Meaning of Responsible Parenthood
A responsible parenthood can be defined as the responsibilities of parents to guide, protect and provide for the basic needs of their children. It is also defined as the will and ability of parents to respect and do the needs and aspirations of the family and children.
Responsible Parenthood is the ability of a parent to meet and cater for the needs of the family and children according to his or her capability.
Qualities of a Responsible Parent
- Ability to meet basic needs of the family
- They empower the children
- They are good role models
- They providing children with consistent schedules, routines, and relationships. They set healthy structures
- They provide good academic and moral supports to the children
- They encourage healthy eating habits in the children
- They are flexible parents, open-minded and easy-going
- Adoption of family bonding strategies: Responsible parents should adopt peaceful strategies that will ensure adequate bonding of the family. E.G., Eating and praying together
- Adoption of family planning, sound knowledge of child bearing and rearing: Responsible parenthood requires the parents to consider their financial capability, and give birth to only the number of children they can cater for.
Concepts in responsible parenthood
- Family size: The size of a family should be decided by both parents together, based on their available resources and the standard of living they wish to achieve
- Availability: A good and responsible parent should be there at all time to meet the children’s needs and be patient enough for them to approach maturity age before giving them out for marriage
- Emotional maturity: Before a person can go into marriage, the person must be sound in mind, spirit, body and soul in order to be able to tolerate all that go with the institution of marriage like pregnancy, tolerance, care, etc.
Duties of Responsible Parenthood
Father’s Roles in the family
- Protection and defense: It is the responsibility of a father to protect and defend his family members in times of troubles.
- Assurance of peace: It is the primary duty of a father to ensure that unity, peace, love and harmony reign within his family
- Ensuring proper upbringing: It is the duty of a father to ensure the proper upbringing of his children.
- Overseer of basic roles: It is the duty of the father to oversee the roles of the family members and call them to order when there is need for it.
- Provision of basic needs: It is the duty of a father to provide the basic needs of his family such as accommodation, feeding etc
Mother’s Roles in the Family
- Love and care: It is the duty of the mother to show love and care to the family
- Training of children: It is the priority of the mother to train the children on basic household chores and help the children to be responsible.
- Neatness role: It is the duty of a responsible mother to ensure the house is neat and properly kept in good condition.
- Kitchen role: It is the duty of the mother to prepare health meals to her family and carry out any kitchen related roles for the family
- Support: The mother should be performing the role of a helper; she should support the husband in his role. E.g. giving financial support, helping to training the children, giving reasonable advice to the husband and children
Factors to consider when choosing a partner
- Personality and character
- Economic Standing
- Health Status
Patterns/Types of Parenting Styles
- Authoritative Parenting Style
- Authoritarian Parenting Style
- Carefree Parenting Style
- Permissive Parenting Style
Authoritative Parenting Style
This is the most desirable parenting style. It allows children to express themselves, while parent parents still retain authority and control. Authoritative parents have high expectations of their children, but they allow freedom of expression. This type of parents establish authority without the intention of creating fear in the minds of their children, but to help them become useful to themselves and the society.
Authoritarian Parenting Style
Unlike Authoritative Parenting Style, Authoritarian Parents are strict and very demanding: the feeling, opinion of the child doesn't matter when decisions concerning him/her are to be made. Children under authoritarian parenting style are expected to follow rules without questioning, even if they are not cool with the rules. Authoritarian parenting style can be destructive to the children.
Carefree Parenting Style
This is considered to be the least desirable parenting style - tending towards neglect. There is no form of any attachment or affectionate practices between the children and the parents. Perhaps because of busy schedule and work demand, Carefree parents rarely stay at home or have time for their children. Carefree Parenting Style is strongly discourage, and can have destructive effects on the children.
Permissive Parenting Style
Under Permissive Parenting Style, few rules are sometimes set for the children, and the rules are inconsistent when they do exist. Permissive parents are lenient and allow considerable self regulation. Usually, permissive parenting results from parents who try to compensate for what they themselves lacked as children. Perhaps they were raised by parents who were authoritarian.